Sunday, December 25, 2005
Kim also gave my family a gift from Kell that she had found among her things. It was a beautiful glass Christmas ornament that Kell made before she died. I love it and will always treasure it. It was sweet of Kim to give us such a beautiful reminder of her sister.
Merry Christmas to you all. May God bless you and your families in the coming year.
Friday, December 16, 2005
Kelly-Anne recieved her Bachelor's Degree in Communications from Concordia University in November 2002. She loved studying and would often take courses outside her field "just for the heck of it." Some examples include the History of Quebec, Geology, Geography, and numerous others that I can't remember off the top of my head. Kell loved learning about diverse subjects and enjoyed being a student. While at Concordia, Kell produced a number of interesting radio and television documentaries, including one about the memories of the residents who had been living on her street in Pierrefonds for more than 50 years. In her studies and in every other aspect of her life, Kell demonstrated her creativity, intelligence, passion, and joie de vivre.
Monday, December 12, 2005
We miss her so much each day, but somehow the loss is more acute when we all gather together at the holidays and it is plainly evident that she isn't with us. Birthdays are hard, holidays are hard, Sundays are hard... overall it's wretched to deal with this. In an instant Kell's 24 years of love, life, happiness, and vitality were stolen away from her and from her family.
It is amazing how far everyone has come this year. Honestly, at this time last year I wondered whether we would ever be able to go on. Doreen, John, and Kim are each doing their best to ensure that Kell is remembered and that other people facing similar situations will have the support they need. I know that Kell would be proud of her family. I think she would be delighted to know they are trying to help others who are facing the same situation.
But it doesn't change how much we miss her...
Friday, December 09, 2005
Friday, December 02, 2005
Another from the lifesaving competition in Italy in September 2004.
Thursday, December 01, 2005
Wednesday, November 30, 2005
Kelly-Anne's friends remember
By Ian Howarth, The Suburban
November 28 would have been Kelly-Anne Drummond’s 26th birthday, and the fact that so many people turned out to honour her on her special day is a testimonial to her dedication to the cause of the Quebec Lifesaving Society.
The Kelly-Anne Drummond Foundation held a candlelight march and fundraiser in Dorval last Saturday, adding $8,900 to help train and equip aquatic lifesaving competitors. This was the foundation’s second annual event to commemorate Kelly-Anne, a competitive lifesaver and all-round athlete murdered on October 4, 2004.
“Kelly-Anne would have been proud to be associated with this project,” said mother, Doreen Haddad-Drummond. “This is a sport that she loved so much and it was her dream that others might have the chance to compete in international lifesaving events.”
Kelly-Anne had last competed in September 2004 in Vareggio, Italy, just before her death. Martin Morin-Cousineau, Drummond’s live-in boyfriend, has been charged with second-degree murder and is set to stand trial March 6th. If convicted, he could be sentenced to serve a minimum of 10 years without parole and up to 25 years in a federal prison.
“Kelly-Anne worked so hard to save her own money for that competition,” said Raynald Hawkins, Director General of the Quebec Lifesaving Society. Along with the $5,000 raised at last year’s event, the QLS now has some funds available for bursaries to cover training and travel costs.
Her foundation will now give other athletes a chance to compete with some financial assistance from the QLS. Quebec will be sending at least one athlete with Canada’s national team; Veronique Comptois will be competing in the February 2006 world aquatic lifesaving championships in Melbourne, Australia.
"This event means a lot to me, but her birthday will bring back some memories,” said Haddad-Drummond, who will also be a featured speaker at the Valois United Church, Dec. 6, commemoration of the 16th anniversary of the École Polytechnique massacre. “I am keeping busy now but when the time comes for her trial, I’ll be there every day. I’ll be there representing my daughter. I’ll be her voice.”
Monday, November 28, 2005
Today would have been her 26th birthday.
It is so hard to believe that yet another one of her birthdays is here and she is no longer with us. The tragedy and reality of what happened to my dear friend is finally sinking in. I miss her each and every day, and on days like this, when she should be celebrating, the loss is even more acute.
I was looking forward to seeing how Kelly-Anne's life turned out. She had so much in store for the coming years--and it was all taken away in an instant. We will not ever get to know what would have happened to her in terms of career, love, marriage, and children.
This is a haunting loss that will never end...
We miss you so much Kelly-Anne.
Thursday, October 20, 2005
Kelly-Anne Drummond Foundation
Saturday, November 26, 2005
6:00 p.m.- 9:30 p.m.
1335, Lakeshore Road
Tickets : $ 50.00 per person
Prior to the cocktail, there will be a memorial service at
St. Mark’s Anglican Church
865 Lakeshore Road
At 4:30 p.m.
Tuesday, October 18, 2005
Do not stand at my grave and weep,I am not there, I do not sleep.I am a thousand winds that blow.I am the diamond glint on snow.I am the sunlight on ripened grain.I am the gentle autumn rain.When you wake in the morning hush,I am the swift, uplifting rushOf quiet birds in circling flight.I am the soft starlight at night.Do not stand at my grave and weep.I am not there, I do not sleep.Do not stand at my grave and cry.I am not there, I did not die!Mary Frye (1932)
This photo is from January 2003, when she dragged herself out of bed at some ungodly hour to drive me and my Dad to the airport so we could make our way back to Ohio for the start of my new semester.
Kell was always a very good friend. No matter what, she could be counted on for a laugh in good times and a hug in times of trouble. Even during the times we lived apart, Kell was always there for me.
Once, when I was living in Ohio, Kell decided that she needed to send me a package in the mail. She went out and found me the most adorable little earings--studs with the initial "R" in sterling silver. She proudly wrapped them up in a regular envelope and mailed them off.
I couldn't believe my eyes when I recieved the package... I opened it up hastily to see what it contained and you can imagine my shock when I discovered the remnants of what used to be a very cute pair of earings! They had been destroyed in the mail, undoutedly by some machinery. I had no idea how to break the news to Kell, and when I finally told her she was so mad! She said "I knew they wouldn't survive the journey, but the postman told me the packaging should be fine!"
In classic Kell mode, she wasn't about to let Canada Post get in the way of her plans. The next day she marched out determined to find another pair of earings and determined to get them to me in one piece. She was successful in her mission, I recieved the cute little earings about a week later. And, Kell even had a solution for the "R"s that had broken off of the other pair. She suggested I string one through a chain and make a matching necklace!
How could you ever forget a friend like that?
Monday, October 17, 2005
This is a photo that was taken in July 2004. It was one of the last times I saw Kelly-Anne. We had a wonderful time together that night. We laughed, danced, sung, acted crazy, and even jumped in the pool fully clothed. It was fantastic hanging out with her and just having fun. I won't ever forget that night.
Thursday, October 13, 2005
"Murdered women honoured with monuments: To be unveiled Oct. 23 at Grier Park; Benches have been installed nearby for people to sit and meditate or pray"
By Alycia Ambroziak
It's an anniversary that no one would wish upon his or her worst enemy, but for John and Doreen Drummond, Oct. 5 was a day they had no choice but to face: It was the first anniversary of their daughter Kelly-Anne's murder.
"It truly is a sad time for us," Doreen Drummond said last week. "The only consolation I have is that three women I know of made a decision to get out of violent relationships - they were influenced by what happened to Kelly-Anne. "
Through her death, I, along with John and Kim, Kelly-Anne's younger sister, received the strength to join forces with the Missing and Murdered Persons Families Association," she said.
Kelly-Anne Drummond, an educator at a day-care centre, was attacked Oct. 3, 2004, at the Pierrefonds apartment she shared with her boyfriend. Drummond had been stabbed in the back and died two days later. She was 24.
Martin Morin-Cousineau, 30, was charged with second-degree murder. The trial is scheduled to take place in early March.
Drummond said that on Oct. 23, the borough of Pierrefonds will hold a commemorative ceremony for her daughter as well as for Janet Kuchinsky, a mother of three who was killed July 10, 1999. Kuchinsky had taken an evening walk on an path at the north end of Sources Blvd. Her body was found the next day in bushes a few metres off the path. No one has been charged in connection with the 43-year-old's death.
Bert Ward, pro-mayor of the borough, said two monuments will be unveiled Oct. 23 at Grier Park, next to an already installed monument in memory of Anne-Marie Edward, one of the 14 women killed by Marc Lepine in the massacre at the Universite de Montreal's Ecole Polytechnique on Dec. 6, 1989. She was 21.
"We wanted to do something to say no to violence," Ward said. He said there are benches installed near the monuments for people to sit and meditate or pray.
"This section of the park will be a memorial to those Pierrefonds women who were murdered," he said.
The Quebec Lifesaving Society is holding a Kelly-Anne Drummond Foundation memorial service, candlelit march and cocktail fundraiser on Nov. 26.
Drummond had represented Quebec and Canada at national and international lifesaving championships and competed as a member of the Quebec team at the World Rescue Championships in Italy.
The Nov. 26 event will begin with a memorial service at St. Mark's Anglican Church, 865 Lakeshore Rd. in Dorval at 4:30 p.m., followed by a processional candlelit march to the Sarto Desnoyers Community Centre, 1335 Lakeshore Rd. in Dorval. The fundraising cocktail will take place from 6 to 9:30 p.m at the community centre.
Tickets for the cocktail fund-raiser are $50. Cash bar. For information, call (514) 252-3100.
Comments on the First Annual Kelly-Anne Drummond Memorial Cup that was held yesterday evening:
John's comments: "The evening went just great, a bit cool but nice. McGill won 41 to 3, a good game. I could just close my eyes and see Kell thumping someone from the Martlets. The Cup that they gave out is beautiful, a crystal vase on a nice base. The teams were clapping for Doreen and I as we left the field after the presentation. Mcgill carried a picture of Kell in their pockets. About $1,900 total was collected for the shelter, Concordia matched the contributions. Also a lot of clothes and canned goods were collected."
Doreen's comments: "It was such a bittersweet evening. You would be happy to know that McGill won the cup. It was beautiful... a crystal vase mounted on a pedestal base. It was nice seeing her old Rubgy friends there ....but sad to see that Kell was not among them, but I know she was there in spirit. There was a minute of silence prior to the start of the game in rememberance of Kelly-Anne. It was an honor for us to be on the field presenting the Kelly-Anne Drummond Cup."
Here is more about the game from Concordia's website:
Kelly-Anne Drummond Memorial CupConcordia-McGill to play rugby in honor late Stinger Kelly-Anne Drummond
The Concordia Stingers and the McGill Martlets will play the inaugural Kelly-Anne Drummond Cup game on Wednesday, Oct. 12 at 7 p.m. at Concordia Stadium.
The game will be symbolic of women' university rugby supremacy in Montreal and pay tribute to Kelly-Anne, who died on Oct. 4, 2004. Her boyfriend has been charged with second-degree murder and is awaiting trial.
Drummond was a member of the Stingers women's rugby team from 1999 through 2001. A front row player, she was respected by her teammates for her commitment to the game and her work ethic. She also charmed her many friends with her inquisitiveness and fun-loving approach to life. She graduated from Concordia University with a major in Communications in 2002.
A moment of silence will be observed before the game. Afterwards Doreen Haddad will present the Cup that bears her daughter's name to the captains of the winning team.
There is no charge to attend the game. However, donations of cash, clothes and toys for the West Island Women's Shelter would be appreciated.
Does anyone else who attended the event have anything they would like to share?
And, for the record, I would have prefered if Concordia had been victorious in this one!
Wednesday, October 12, 2005
A memory from the parent of one of the students Kell taught:
"Kelly-Anne was a remarkable person with many facets to her life. I knew her not as an athlete or a team-mate but as a teacher to my young son, Zachary. She encouraged Zachary to express his uniqueness, to laugh loudly, to play boisterously and, most of all, to just have fun. She was a breath of fresh air, and her tragic death has left a hole in my family's hearts. What other educator would play air guitar with Zachary and actually know the words to "Summer of '69" to sing along with him? We were lucky to have had her in our lives -- and are blessed because of it. Doreen and John, you raised a wonderful daughter. I think of you and Kimberley often and hope peace finds you. And I will never forget Kelly-Anne. "
A memory from a fellow athlete and teammate:
"I became friends with Kelly-Anne when we were 11 years old. We first met at DDO synchro where we swam together for a couple years. We then played waterpolo together for another 6 years. Aside from Kelly-Anne's fun and outgoing personality, I will also remember her determination and perseverance to always do her best. She was such a sweet and caring person. Even after months apart we were always able to pick up where we left off, with the same warm and friendly conversations. I will always remember Kelly-Anne for her smile, her sense of humor, and the great times that I am so thankful we shared."
A memory from a dear friend:
"My deepest sympathies go out to Doreen, John and Kim. I will always remember Kelly-Anne for her crazy sense of humour. I wish I could go back to the days when we would bike home from Thorndale pool with our towels around our necks, or when we used to ride the school bus together. I wish that we could carpool to Waterpolo just one more time - even if she was a better player than I was! I wish that we could run through the sprinklers on the football field up the street once more. I wish that Kelly-Anne would have visited me in Nova Scotia - however driving together to PEI was a blast. And finally I wish that we could have talked more, but as we grow up and grow apart, it's not always possible. And so, those are all the ways in which I will remember Kelly-Anne, for the rest of my life. A vibrant, outgoing, accomplished, forgiving, loving, caring and happy person. Those are all happy memories to me, and I am grateful to have so many. I love you Kelly-Anne, and I will miss you dearly."
Tuesday, October 11, 2005
In case you missed it, here is the text of a particularly good article that appeared in the Montreal Gazette.
The Gazette (Montreal)
December 4, 2004
By Jack Todd
"It's time athletes spoke out against 'domestic abuse'"
John Drummond remembers exactly where he was when he heard the news on Dec. 6, 1989.
"I was coming out of a Christmas party at the Old Munich.I got in the car and I turned the radio on to CJAD and heard what was happening and I thought: 'oh, my. What is this?' "
As the father of two young daughters, Drummond had reason to recoil in horror at the news of the massacre at the Ecole Polytechnique that claimed the lives of 14 young women. Any parent with daughters had to feel a jolt of fear after what happened at the Poly 15 years ago Monday.
Yesterday, he marked another sad anniversary. On Oct. 3, his daughter, Kelly-Anne Drummond, was attacked at the apartment she shared with her boyfriend, 30-year-old Martin Morin-Cousineau. When police and ambulance technicians arrived, they found that Drummond, an athlete who competed in rugby, water polo and lifesaving, was in cardiac arrest after being stabbed in the back. She died two days later; Cousineau was charged with second-degree murder in her death and faces a preliminary hearing Jan. 13.
For Drummond, his wife, Doreen, and his surviving daughter, Kim, this will be the grimmest of holidays, a series of dates on the calendar when the only thing they have to hold onto is the memories of a young woman who was everything parents could want a daughter to be and so much more than the athlete most people knew: a communications graduate of Concordia, a daycare teacher, a crafts-woman who was making three- dimensional gift cards to sell during the holidays."
She was every parent's dream," godmother Annabelle Barakett said in her eulogy. "And what happened to her is every parent's nightmare."
"She and her sister never caused us one moment of grief," Drummond said yesterday. "We brought them up to respect everyone, no matter what their race or faith."
Unfortunately, Kelly-Anne Drummond did not get that respect in return. After her death, the family found that she had taken 150 photos in Italy with a digital camera and found another five rolls of film - photos of Italy, of the lifesaving competitions in which she took part, of Kelly-Anne herself."
There are especially a lot of photos of Rome and the Vatican," Drummond said. "Someday I'd like to go back there, retrace her steps."
Obviously, the fact that his daughter was strong and athletic was no help at all. Now, Kelly-Anne Drummond the rugby player is another statistic.
According to StatsCan statistics for the year 2003, a brutal pattern of male violence against women remains essentially unchanged nearly 15 years after the Marc Lepine massacre:
- A total of 25 per cent of all violent crimes reported to police still involve family violence;- Spousal violence accounts for two-thirds of all family violence;
- Partners and ex-partners account for 47 per cent of all criminal harassment cases;
- In 59 per cent of all spousal homicide casees, police were aware of a history of domestic violence between the accused and the victim;
- In 85 per cent of all domestic violence cases, the woman is the victim.
Kathleen O'Grady, a research associate at Concordia's Simone de Beauvoir Institute who supplied those statistics, drew the right conclusions when she wrote: "It is time we called 'domestic abuse' what it is: violence and murder. ... Otherwise we can only surmise that women, when they are wives, don't matter, and that their occasional brutal deaths are an accepted risk of domestic living."
That a woman has to accept such risk in any relationship with a man, spousal or otherwise, is absurd. But punishment is not the only solution. As important as it is for judges such as Superior Court Justice Fraser Martin to send a clear and unmistakable message, it is equally important to find a way to defuse these situations long before a woman is murdered. It begins with education, with a willingness to talk about violence against women, with men speaking out.
Given the long and embarrassing history of athletes abusing women, it would be refreshing to see more athletes in the forefront of the effort to educate other males about our behaviour toward women. It is one thing for a committed feminist to condemn violence against women; it would be quite another for a star athlete to step up and say "this is wrong" or "no means no" or "never, under any circumstances, do you shoot, strike, stab, kick, or otherwise abuse a woman."
Instead we get O.J. Simpson, Tommy Kane and the horrifying case of former Carolina Panthers wide-receiver Rae Carruth, who hired a pair of hitmen to kill his girlfriend, who was eight months pregnant at the time.
Now a week that began with the anniversary of the killing of Tammy Shaikh by former football star Kane ends with the observation of still another appalling tragedy.
"It just keeps happening," Drummond said. "Another woman was killed the same day as Kelly-Anne. Altogether, four women were killed in a span of eight days."
Fifteen years after the massacre at the Poly, it's unacceptable that we have made no little progress. It you're a boy or a man, speak out. If you're having trouble controlling your rage, get help.
Because the day a woman takes a man into her life should not be the day when she meets the agent of her death.
1st Annual Kelly-Anne Drummond Cup - Concordia vs McGill
Kelly-Anne Drummond, an ex-Stinger, was murdered one year ago this October fifth. Kelly-Anne was a member of the Concordia Women’s Rugby team from 1999-2001. She was very well-like and respected for her fun-loving attitude, commitment to the game and her work ethic. She left behind many relatives, friends and teammates from her playing days at Concordia and with the Montreal Barbarian rugby club.
We, at Concordia, have permanently retired her number three jersey and on Wednesday the 12th of October the 2005 Stingers Women’s Rugby Team will be playing against their cross city rivals, the McGill Martlets for the 1st Annual Kelly-Anne Drummond Cup. Kick off is at 7pm and we will be collecting money on her behalf for the West Island Women’s Shelter.
Come out and support women’s rugby and the fight against domestic violence.
When: Wednesday, October 12th, 2005
Kick off is at 7pm in NDG, Loyola Campus.
Please come and support a good cause.
Joanne Auger MIRFC Member and Ex-teammate of Kelly-Anne's
Click here to read John's testimony.
Click here to read Doreen's testimony.
She was an ideal big sister to Kim, always looking out for her, encouraging her, sticking up for her, and trying to ensure she was on the right path.
To me, Kell was a friend through thick and thin. We first met back when we were in kindergarden and the Drummond family moved in on our street. We laughed and played huge adventure games with all the kids in the neighborhood. We swam together and took lessons in different sports at Thorndale pool. We went to elementary and high school together--and although we fought from time to time--we were always there for one another.
Kell was also an ideal daughter. She played many roles within her family, and her presence is sorely missed. Kell could always be counted on to entertain family and friends, and show them just how much she cared about them. The special gifts she would make by hand--especially for her family--are among the most treasured posessions of Kell's parents and sister.
Kell participated in many sports, and according to her friends from her many teams she was an indeal friend and teammate. During her relatively short life, Kell participated in Synchronized Swimming, Water Polo, Swimming, Rugby, and most recently Life Saving. She was also a part of numerous other teams in high school.
According to coworkers, students, and parents at the daycare where she worked, Kell was a fantastic teacher and had a knack for really connecting with her students. She loved what she did, and I remember a couple of weeks before she died she was showing me the lesson plans she had drawn up for the english as a second language classes she would be teaching.
The older folks that lived in her neighborhood also had a special place in their heart for Kelly-Anne. She was known to pay special attention to the senior citizens that she encountered, and even spent many hours teaching a lady how to use her computer to connect with her grandchildren.
Kell was kind to everyone she met. She was by no means perfect--she had her flaws as we all do--but overall she was a wonderful person and a great friend to all.
Thursday, October 06, 2005
Welcome to those of you visiting from the URL in my e-mail. I haven't updated this site much, but would be happy to post any stories, e-mails, or photos that people send along. Please feel free to e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org with anything you would like to share.
Monday, October 03, 2005
What will I say to my children about Kelly-Anne? Every year of highschool Kell would write a crazy message in my yearbook. What will I say when they open up my high school yearbooks from each of our five years at John Rennie? What will they think when they see that each and every year she wrote messages to my kids from “Auntie Kell?”
Thursday, September 29, 2005
I miss her every day. I sometimes call her old number just to see what happens. Every so often I look at my photos and letters and I remember all the fun we had together. Eventually I have to put it all away because I just can't look at it any more. It hurts too much. It is an awful feeling.
Kell deserved much, much better than this.