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Kelly-Anne Drummond was born twenty-eight years ago today, on November 28, 1979. This should have been her lucky birthday—but we are not, unfortunately, so lucky. We are not lucky because she is not with us; we can not celebrate with her today. This is the fourth November 28 that has been completely hollow.

Although I can't celebrate with Kelly-Anne today, I still choose to celebrate her. This morning I set my i-pod to play some of her favourite songs: Sleepy Maggie, by Ashley MacIssac; When I'm Up, by Great Big Sea; Summer of '69, by Bryan Adams; and Stacey's Mom, by Fountains of Wayne; and Hasn't Hit Me Yet, by Blue Rodeo. None of this brings her back, but it does make me remember the good times we shared over the years.

I miss you so much, Kelly-Anne. Rest in peace.

Another Tragedy

My heartfelt condolences to the family and friends of Jayne McGowan, another lovely young woman whose life was tragically cut short in its prime this week. I remember vividly the feelings after Kelly-Anne died: immense sadness, shock, anger, lonliness, confusion, and guilt. I will be praying for the McGowan family and all those who knew and loved Jayne.

Profile of Kim Drummond in the Gazette

"It's what we do next that really matters"
By Huntley Addie
Montreal Gazette, November 1, 2007

Losing your son, daughter, sister or best friend in a hideously unjust sudden theft of life has got to be one of the most difficult things human beings face.

So what do we say to this person, our friend or ex-student or co-worker, who has experienced this horrific loss? We say we're sorry - for that is all we have. And, according to Kim Drummond, sister of Kelly-Anne Drummond, who was killed three years ago by her raging boyfriend, "You only need to say it once." We shouldn't treat the person like china; nor should we ignore them; nor treat them like they have some contagion. "For," as Kim continued, "life goes on, and we need to move with it. Who wants pity, really?" Kim asked me to tell her story, and with a smile and a shrug, she wanted: "Maybe to give some advice on what to say to the sister of the murdered chick." We laugh at the use of the word "chick." She's laughing and that's good.

Some might wonder how Kim manages to smile at all. Shouldn't she still be sobbing, depressed - locked up? "Been there, done that," is Kim's reply, and we're smiling again.

When I began at John Rennie, I was a resource teacher working with students with various different needs. I spent a lot of quality time with this caring, intelligent and yet thoroughly disenchanted young lady. High school was a struggle as grammar and math, in particular, thwarted good grades.

Yet this was not a person to wallow in the negative energy that seemed to surround her high school experiences; for she had her sister solidly in her corner, always sweeping that energy away.

After squash matches, Kim, exhausted, would often turn to Kelly Anne, pinching a semi-inch on her thigh or wherever, and say: "I'm sweating like a savage, and yet I'm still not losing weight." To which Kelly Anne would reply: "Don't go into sports to lose weight, Kim. Do it to get better at the sport!" And the words stuck.

Kim Drummond is one of the most dedicatedly selfless people I have met.

Immediately after the traumas of high school, Kim went to Dawson College, then moved to Ontario, ending up at Carleton University in women's studies. It was a tough haul for a student who had always struggled in school but, as she persevered, it soon became the best time.
And through it all, Kelly Anne was there. Kelly Anne, Kim's best friend and mentor, pushed education and athletics above all things. She read and edited Kim's papers, and rallied behind her sister if she faltered.

In October of Kim's final year of university, Kelly Anne was ripped away. After studying thousands of statistics on violent crimes against women, Kim now had her sister as an addition to the stats.

Screaming with pain inside, Kim pressed on and returned to school two weeks after her sister's murder.

"Losing Kelly Anne, losing a sibling, is the most horrible thing. It is. There is no question," Kim told me. "But what I think is most important for people to hear is that my life can still be filled with good things.

"And for the past three years I haven't locked myself in my room. I have graduated from university, worked with the MS Society, volunteered like a madwoman and continued our family tradition of always doing Christmas baskets on our own.

"I have travelled to five countries. I have continued to work at camps for the 'disadvantaged' as I have every summer for the past nine years. It didn't all stop three years ago.

"This past summer, in fact, was my proudest achievement, at Camp Moomba in Port Moody, near Vancouver. This is the only camp in Canada for kids living with, or affected by, HIV/Aids. These kids inspired me to continue pursuing nursing.

"They reminded me how we all need to continue beyond just ourselves."

Huntley Addie is an English and journalism teacher at John Rennie High School.

Three years.

Three years ago today I lost my best friend. In some ways it seems like yesterday. Her life was taken from her in an instant. In an act of rage and anger she was snuffed out. She fought hard—Kelly-Anne Drummond didn’t want to die. She had great plans for her life: travel, a career in radio or television production, a husband and kids one day, the ability to experience life’s simple pleasures, and eventually growing old, surrounded by her family and friends. But because of the actions of one person, she won’t ever get to accomplish any of those things.

Every day I struggle to figure out how to properly honor Kelly-Anne’s memory. I miss her so much, and I wish more than anything we could have the chance to talk one more time. If I could speak to her again, I’d tell her that I love her and thank her for being such a great friend to me for almost twenty years. I would tell her that nothing has really been the same since she died: I can’t swing by her house to say hi, or pick up the phone for a long chat, or open my e-mail and find a description of her latest adventures. Above all, I’d tell her I was sorry. Sorry that this happened, and sorry I couldn’t do more to help her see that the boy she was dating wasn’t right for her, and was in fact, downright dangerous.

I hope you will all remember Kelly-Anne this week. Do something to honor her memory in some way. And please, above all, try to help your loved ones who might be caught in a bad relationship. Things can go tragically wrong in an instant. Kelly-Anne certainly never thought she would wind up dead. Although Kell is gone, her legacy will live on forever through those who knew and loved her.

Kelly-Anne Drummond

Beyond keeping the memory of my dear friend alive, one of the things that I hope this blog will do in the future is help other people who may be facing similar situations. I will never forget how I felt when Kell was murdered. The sadness, anger, disbelief, and pain were overwhelming. I vividly remember constantly feeling lost and hopeless—blaming myself, blaming others around me, even blaming Kelly-Anne herself. These emotions were always there, but it was only when life began to return to normal, and when I began discovering that my normal was forever altered, that they became completely overwhelming.

I can remember wondering how I would ever go on without Kell? How could I possibly be expected to live a normal life again when something so tragic happened? I can remember hours spent in front of my computer desperately hoping that I might find a resource to help me. I knew there were grief counselors and therapists, but they weren’t going to change what happened—no one could bring Kell back. What I was really searching for was a person going through the same thing I was. I think I probably googled thousands of things ranging from “coping with murder” to “how do you deal with the loss of your best friend” and couldn’t find anything that I was really looking for.

I hope this website might be that resource for others. I hope that through my writings I will show that though Kelly-Anne is something that can never be replaced, the pain of the loss will eventually subside somewhat. At first, the grief is so completely overwhelming you can’t begin to understand how your life will ever go on. I vividly remember, maybe a few weeks after Kell was killed, my dad telling me that one day my pain won’t be as raw as it is now. Though he was absolutely right, it actually made me feel worse. If I accepted that the pain wouldn’t always be this bad it might actually mean I was accepting that she really was never coming back. And that, of course, was something I couldn’t really accept.

I could never really find what I was searching for. I wanted someone to tell me what it was like coping with murder. I understood losing people because of illness and tragic accidents, but murder was a completely different ball game. How could someone have decided to take her life? Why should she have suffered such a horrendous fate? Did she know exactly how much she was loved even though none of us got to say goodbye? How could I have spent time with someone who was capable of killing another human being?

Don’t get me wrong, I still don’t have answers to most of these questions, but I have learned to deal with them day by day.

Un-happy Anniversary

Today is the second anniversary of the terrible attack that claimed Kelly-Anne Drummond’s life. Two years ago today, she went from being a vibrant twenty-four year old with a whole life ahead of her to another tragic statistic. Twenty-four months ago all of our lives changed forever.

There have been many unhappy moments in the last two years. Learning to cope with the grief, intense sadness, anger, rage, disbelief, and pain of losing a daughter, sister, and friend has consumed us. We know we will never be the same again, because we know that the place Kelly-Anne occupied in our lives can never be filled by anything else.

In death, Kelly-Anne’s legacy was stolen from us. She became a statistic—just another woman murdered in 2004 by a boyfriend. But she was so much more than that, as is each woman who suffers this fate. Kelly-Anne was an intelligent, athletic, devoted, patriotic, adventurous, humorous, and loving friend. She meant the world to those who knew her.

Thank you for taking the time to remember Kelly-Anne. Today we not only mourn our loss, but also celebrate her life.

Press Clippings--Part XXXXI

Murderer must serve 13 years: Kelly-Anne Drummond stabbed to death. 'Our only wish now it that he gets the help he needs ... so he will be somewhat rehabilitated'

By: Sue Montgomery

The Gazette, April 21, 2006


Martin Morin-Cousineau caught his girlfriend off guard, attacking her from behind and plunging a steak knife into her neck.

Such violence, especially against women, is unacceptable, Superior Court Justice Claude Champagne said yesterday in ruling Kelly-Anne Drummond's killer will have no chance for parole until he has served 13 years in prison.

Last week, a jury found Morin-Cousineau, 32, guilty of second-degree murder, which carries an automatic life sentence.

The defence had asked for the minimum parole eligibility of 10 years, but the judge went with the Crown's request.

Given that the jurisprudence for parole eligibility in similar cases is 12 or 13 years, the Drummonds were satisfied with the decision.

"Our only wish now is that he gets the help he needs so that if and when he does leave prison, he will be somewhat rehabilitated ... and will never hurt another woman," Doreen Haddad Drummond said.

A teary Micheline Morin-Cousineau, who has been in the courtroom every day since the trial began March 6, said 13 years "is an enormous amount of time."

She continued to back her son's claim that the death was an accident and said the family plans to appeal the verdict.

"It's impossible that he put a knife in Kelly-Anne's neck," she said.

"He's cried over her death ever since Oct. 4."

Drummond, a popular athlete, lifeguard and graduate of Concordia University, was found in a pool of blood Oct. 3, 2004, on the kitchen floor of the apartment she shared with Morin-Cousineau.

The couple had been fighting over $30 owed to their landlord, when Morin-Cousineau got fed up with the "nagging."

He said that when he threw his hands up in frustration, the knife with which he had been eating flew into the air, stabbing Drummond in the back of the neck.

She then slipped on a 7-Up bottle and fell against the stove, which shoved the knife farther into her skull, he said.

Morin-Cousineau's fatal blow immediately turned Drummond, 24, into a quadriplegic and left her unable to breathe on her own. Her family decided to remove life support Oct. 5.

Champagne said Morin-Cousineau has difficulty controlling his anger in relationships with women, and has had a restraining order placed against him by another woman.

"He followed, without success in my opinion, an anger-management training course, and his mother admitted that he often took out his frustrations at home by hitting the walls with his fists and feet," he wrote.

The judge told the Drummonds now that court proceedings were over, he hoped they could move to the next stage of mourning

smontgomery@thegazette.canwest.com

Editorial about Kelly-Anne

The haunting question
Why couldn't the lifeguard save her own life?

By Jack Todd

The Gazette, April 15, 2006

Through a grim coincidence, the Supreme Court of Canada refused Thursday to hear the appeal of convicted killer Tommy Kane, the erstwhile football star sentenced to 18 years in prison for the manslaughter of his wife, Tammy Shaikh, stabbed to death with a kitchen knife.

The same day, sentencing arguments were heard in Montreal for convicted killer Martin Morin-Cousineau, found guilty earlier in the week in the murder of Kelly-Anne Drummond. In the Drummond case, she was the athlete but even her strength and athleticism were not enough to save her from being stabbed in the back of the neck with a steak knife.

There are other parallels: both men proclaiming their innocence and offering excuses so convoluted that they would be ludicrous in another setting. Families shattered, women slaughtered, men unrepentant: That the story line has aged a few millennia makes it no less painful.

The superb reporting of colleague Sue Montgomery has already told all you need to know about Drummond's death and Morin-Cousineau's trial. To extend sympathy to the Drummond family is a hollow gesture - there are acts so heinous that they mock human kindness and reduce our best impulses to the theatre of the inadequate.

The massacre of 14 women at the Ecole Polytechnique in December 1989 first brought home this truth. No words were adequate to describe the horror, no sympathy sufficient, no outrage equal to the magnitude of the crime. Millions of words have been expended on the murders committed by Marc Lepine in that awful winter and no writer has edged close to the black heart of the matter.

And yet even Lepine was in one sense less evil than Kane and Morin-Cousineau. Lepine slaughtered strangers: his weapon spewed death to people he had never met and never would. Kane and Morin-Cousineau killed their partners.

Therein lies what Hannah Arendt, writing on the Nazi criminal Adolf Eichmann, called the banality of evil. That crime, the murder of a spouse, partner or loved one, is so appallingly common that it is banal, suburban, commonplace.

Perhaps you saw the statistics in the Gazette story written by Katherine Wilton this week: In 2005, 14 out of 22 women who were murdered in Quebec were killed by a boyfriend, an ex-boyfriend or a member of their family. In 2004, 23 out of 30 women who were killed were attacked by a man they knew. When Drummond was murdered in October 2004, she was one of four women to die at the hands of men in Quebec in an eight-day stretch.

There is no point giving equal time to the noisy men's lobby which insists that poor, put-upon males are victims as well; in 85 per cent of all domestic violence cases, the victim is the woman.
If the same brutal tally involved politicians, say, or lawyers or journalists, the outcry would reverberate through the land. Yet for reasons buried in some atavistic failure to recognize women as fully paid-up members of the human race, we tolerate the abuse, rape, harassment and murder of females as one of those regrettable but unavoidable aspects of life.

Police attitudes have improved since 1989, judges are far more aware of the need to protect women from violent or threatening men but the toll does not ease. The fight for gun control did lead to a limited and unsatisfactory form of gun control and the bureaucratic apparatus of the gun registry.

But men go right on stabbing women to death even in this province, where the massacre created unparalleled awareness of the need to protect women from violent men.

The troubling question at the heart of the Drummond murder is why such a strong, athletic, apparently confident young woman would remain in a relationship in which she had been threatened, why the life-saving champion could not save herself: Morin-Cousineau threatened to hurt Drummond's friends if she watched the 2003 Grey Cup game with them. Before she flew to Italy shortly before her murder, Drummond confided to a friend that Morin-Cousineau had threatened to murder her if she made the trip.

Again and again her parents, suspecting something wrong, tried to intervene; again and again, Drummond held them at arm's length.

"I don't know what we could have done to avoid this," Haddad-Drummond said this week. "There are things I did see, but I had never experienced conjugal violence myself. If I knew then what I know now, I think Kelly-Anne would be alive. But what could I do? I couldn't kidnap her."

Yet it may have to come to that. Is there not some point at which parents ought to be able to kidnap their own child, just as they would if she was being held by a cult?
It's a drastic step, but so is murder. Perhaps the solution lies in direct action to free women from such situations.

It may have to come to such an interventionist approach because somehow, we are still not conditioning young women in our society to refuse to subordinate themselves to cruel, vindictive, abusive or threatening males. There is too often a lack of self-esteem in play which makes it impossible for some women to insist that such behaviour is unacceptable and to walk out at the first hint of violence.

Tammy Shaikh, the mother of Kane's four children, was killed while trying to help her husband by persuading him to enter a drug-rehab facility. Drummond was murdered while trying to preserve a relationship that was not worth having.

Forget making sense of their deaths: it can't be done. To prevent such atrocities in the future - well, perhaps it can't be done, either.

But for Tammy Shaikh and Kelly-Anne Drummond and thousands of other victims of domestic violence perpetrated by men against women, we have to try.

jtodd@thegazette.canwest.com

Press Clippings--Part XXXX

Kelly-Anne and Kimberly Drummond: Only eleven months apart in age and as close as any sisters ever could be.

Mothers on opposite sides of tragedy: Sentence hearing. 'My son is not an assassin'

By Sue Montgomery

The Gazette, April 13, 2006

They are two mothers in excruciating emotional pain, trying to come to terms with the violent end of their children's romance.

But when it comes to how Martin Morin-Cousineau should be punished for killing Kelly-Anne Drummond, the two women could not be farther apart.

"I believe a life in hell in the gallows of prison for the rest of his life would be the ultimate punishment. He can live each day in hell, being reminded of Kelly-Anne and the beautiful life he destroyed," Doreen Haddad-Drummond told Superior Court as she read from her victim impact statement during sentencing arguments yesterday.

Micheline Morin-Cousineau, breaking her silence for the first time since her son's second-degree murder trial began March 20, told the court she believes the death was an accident.

On Monday, a jury found Martin Morin-Cousineau, 32, guilty of stabbing Kelly-Anne Drummond, 24, in the back of the neck on Oct. 3, 2004. He faces a life sentence with no chance of parole for at least 10 years.

"We were always there for him, no matter what," Micheline Morin-Cousineau told the court, tears filling her son's eyes as he sat shackled in the prisoner's box. It was the first emotion he'd shown since his trial began.

"My son is not an assassin. My son is not a murderer."

After finding they couldn't have children, she and her husband, Jean Cousineau, adopted Martin and his brother Michel from an orphanage near Riviere des Prairies when the boys were just 15 months and 21/2 years old, respectively.

Yesterday, she wondered aloud why her son, who had started life in a prison of sorts, would now spend the better part of his adulthood in another jail.

The couple sent their boys to private schools. Growing up in Pierrefonds, they learned to speak English while playing on the street and on hockey teams.

At age 12, Martin went to France on an exchange program - a trip "that changed his life," his parents say. Later, he would spend a summer travelling and working odd jobs in Europe.

He attended John Abbott College, then started a degree in business administration at either Concordia or McGill University - his mother wasn't sure which. Finally in 2003, he landed his "dream job" as a travel agent.

Drummond's death resulted from an argument she and Morin-Cousineau had over $30 owed to their landlord. The couple had just moved into a Pierrefonds apartment that August.

Morin-Cousineau maintained the steak knife he was using to eat dinner flew into the air when he threw up his hands in frustration. The next thing he heard was a thump, then glass shattering.

When he ran to the kitchen, Kelly-Anne was lying face-up in a pool of blood on the floor. A brain scan later revealed a 9.5-centimetre blade embedded in her neck. She died Oct. 5.

There were sniffles and sobs in the courtroom yesterday in what was arguably the most emotional day of the trial. Kim Drummond took the stand and spoke publicly about the death of her sister, born 11 months to the day before her.

"The day I walked into the hospital room and found my sister hopeless and lying in the bed ... my parents screaming for her to wake up - this is a constant image that will never leave my mind."

The Drummonds' only surviving child said she worries about her parents.

"It scares me to accept the fact my parents will get older and sadder at times, and it's only me now that has to help them.

"I honestly don't feel I can provide as much strength and courage as everyone says I have."

Crown prosecutor Helene Di Salvo, asking for no parole for at least 13 years, listed conjugal violence cases in which women were shot, stabbed or strangled. Superior Court has been setting parole eligibility at about 12 years in such cases, she said.

Di Salvo noted the jury that found Morin-Cousineau guilty recommended no parole for 15 years - something the judge is not bound to accept.

Defence lawyer Nellie Benoit, asking for the minimum eligibility of 10 years, said Drummond died during an impulsive act.

"There was one knife, not 15, not five, but one," she said. "She wasn't tortured for hours. It was instantaneous. ... He called 911, he didn't disappear to Mexico or cut her into 15 pieces, or hide the body or the knife.

"It's sad, but it could have been worse."

When Di Salvo questioned Benoit's take on violence, Justice Claude Champagne interjected: "At the end of the day, Madame Drummond is dead."

The judge is to render his sentence Thursday.

smontgomery@thegazette.canwest.com

Press Clippings--Part XXXIX

A history of violence: courthouse can be useful resource for women: Criminal records are public; Do the research if you have fears about your partner, slain athlete's mother urges

By Katherine Wilton

The Gazette, April 12, 2006

After Martin Morin-Cousineau threatened to hurt Kelly-Anne Drummond's friends if she watched the 2003 Grey Cup game with them, her mother suggested she go to her local police station to find out whether he had a criminal record. After a brief visit to a station on the West Island, Drummond told her parents Morin-Cousineau had parking violations.

Privacy laws prevented the Montreal police from telling Drummond her boyfriend had been charged and acquitted of uttering death threats earlier that year, and that he was prevented from possessing weapons.

On Monday, a jury convicted Morin-Cousineau of stabbing Drummond to death in October 2004.

Drummond could have learned about Morin-Cousineau's previous run-ins with the law if she had made a trip to the Montreal courthouse, where anyone can access criminal or civil records."The court records are public," said Anne Proulx, director of the courthouse clerk's office in Montreal

Drummond's mother, Doreen Haddad-Drummond, said yesterday women who fear their partners might be violent should go to the court-house to see if they have criminal records.

In fact, Giovanni Diamente, who works at the information desk at the main courthouse in Old Montreal, said he is often asked by women whether it is possible to verify whether their partners have criminal records.

"That is 'the question' that we get here," Diamente said. "I get at least two requests a day."

Anyone seeking information on someone's criminal background is sent across the hall to the criminal court clerk's office, where staff members look up the information on a court computer and provide rudimentary explanations of what is in the file.

Other crimes, such as assault and drunk driving, may be handled by local municipal courts, which are also open to the public.

Martin Dufresne, who heads a group called Montreal Men Against Sexism, urged victims of conjugal violence to seek help immediately if they are threatened, because it is often their partners who end up killing them.

Last year, 14 out of 22 women who were murdered in Quebec were killed by a boyfriend, an ex-boyfriend or a member of their family. In 2004, 23 out of 30 women who were killed were attacked by a man they knew.

kwilton@thegazette.canwest.com

Press Clippings--Part XXXVIII

Boyfriend guilty of murder
Family relieved that Morin-Cousineau will be behind bars

By Marc LaLonde

The Chronicle, April 12, 2006

After some white-knuckle moments over the course of the five-day deliberation period, the jury came back with a verdict in the murder of Kelly-Anne Drummond.Her former boyfriend, Martin Morin-Cousineau, will now spend at least the next decade of his life in prison after being convicted of the second-degree murder of his girlfriend in their Pierrefonds apartment in October 2004.

The verdict brings to an end nearly 18 months of worry, stress and heartache for Doreen Haddad Drummond and John Drummond — and now might leave them even emptier considering what Martin Morin-Cousineau took away from them that fateful night.

“We have nothing to show for (all the heartache) except other than a monster will be off the streets of Montreal and he won’t be able to hurt any other women,” said John Drummond, emotionally.

When the jury came back to the courtroom in the Palais de Justice, it was clear they didn’t buy Morin-Cousineau’s story about an accident in the kitchen and a thrown steak knife causing her death — Morin-Cousineau even admitted on the stand that the relationship probably wasn’t going to last — recommending Judge Claude Champagne sentence Morin-Cousineau, now 32, to a minimum of 15 years in prison for a second-degree murder that carries a minimum sentence of 10 years and a maximum of 25.

“I don’t think they bought it at all. I don’t think anyone bought it,” said John Drummond. “I thought it was impossible, right from the get-go, that (Kelly-Anne’s death) was an accident. After watching the arm movement he claims to have made in the police interrogation video, anyone could’ve seen that it was impossible for things to have happened the way (Morin-Cousineau) claimed they happened.

Morin-Cousineau, who was adopted by Pierrefonds residents Jean and Micheline Cousineau at three years old, displayed little emotion as the verdict was read. His parents also declined to comment to media following the decision.

Doreen Haddad Drummond said she was most relieved by the notion that Morin-Cousineau will be behind bars — away from women — for a while.

“I feel better than I did before the verdict, but you know, no one wins in these things. The important thing is that society is protected from this guy. That’s what’s important here. The jurors sent a message to society that we’re going to take conjugal violence very seriously,” she said.

Prosecutor Hélène Di Salvo said Drummond’s death should serve as a warning to other women in abusive relationships.

“There are women who are threatened, beaten and harassed and think they can deal with it themselves. But get help when you see the yellow light; don’t wait for the red light,” she said.

Morin-Cousineau also had a history of threatening behaviour toward women; he had previously been the subject of a restraining order brought against him by another woman.

John Drummond said the Drummonds never really took a liking to Morin-Cousineau, saying there was something unsettling about him.

“It wasn’t at the very beginning that we thought something was wrong, but eventually. They met in August 2003, and things started to change in late fall. My partner and I went down to Mexico for a vacation and we met with Doreen before we left. I said, ‘I don’t like Marty, I don’t want him in my house or staying at my house.’ Doreen and I both had reservations about him,” he said, continuing on to a story about the Grey Cup 2003 — where the Edmonton Eskimos pounded the Montreal Alouettes — and the couple couldn’t agree on where to watch the game, so they were in different places. He called the house repeatedly that night, looking for Kelly-Anne, and getting more and more threatening each time,” Drummond said.

“He explained to me later that he had been under pressure from his family or some nonsense, but you could see he was lying. His whole adult life has been one big lie. He’s a false person.”

Drummond said despite that, at least the Morin-Cousineau family will still be able to see their son and talk to him, contrary to what the Drummonds have been through.

“All we can do is go to Rideau Memorial Gardens in Dollard des Ormeaux and that’s all we can do. That’s no solace at all.”

Friends and supporters were always on hand at the courthouse all through the deliberation process and took much of the burden off the Drummond family, John Drummond said, but he said special thanks have to go to West Island Community Resource Centre head Ann Davidson and Association des Familles de Personnes Disparus ou Assassinés (AFPAD) chief Pierre-Hugues Boisvenu.

The sentencing hearing is scheduled for tomorrow morning at the Palais de Justice. John, Doreen and Kim Drummond (Kelly-Anne’s younger sister) will all give victim-impact statements.

Though Kelly-Anne is forever lost to us, we remember her spirit each day. We remember how she was in life, not just in her tragic death. She was a true original: kind, funny, intelligent, athletic, spunky, and full of boundless energy.

A beautiful article about Kelly-Anne

Her dream was 'to stay young forever': Something was wrong, but parents felt hopeless in face of abuse. 'I couldn't reach her,' victim's mother says

By Sue Montgomery

The Gazette, April 11, 2006

The photograph shows a smiling young woman, a guide book and map of Italy clutched under her left arm, a camera around her neck, and behind her, the imposing statue of Neptune watching over the Trevi Fountain in Rome.

She's beaming, as any 24-year-old would on her first trip to Europe. Her right hand is raised, in position to toss a coin over her broad swimmer's shoulders into the famous water behind her.

Just a few weeks later, after her violent death at the hands of her boyfriend, Kelly-Anne Drummond's parents would discover her wish carefully recorded in her travel diary: "To stay young forever."

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At 10:58 p.m. on Sunday, Oct. 3, 2004, John Drummond's phone rang in his Pierrefonds house. Picking up, he heard the distraught voice of Micheline Morin-Cousineau, the mother of Kelly-Anne's boyfriend, Marty.

She was crying, saying Kelly-Anne was in the hospital, but Drummond couldn't get any details."She just said, 'Marty hit Kelly-Anne'," he recalls. "She said, 'Je m'excuse, je m'excuse.'

"Panicked, Drummond called his ex-wife, Doreen Haddad-Drummond, who, sound asleep, didn't respond at first, thinking the ringing was part of a dream. Dazed, she picked up. John said, "Kelly-Anne's been hit."

She called their friends, Jay and Val Ayerst, then she and her partner, Jules Seguin, ran outside to await their arrival. They flagged down a passing police cruiser, and once the Ayersts arrived, Jay Ayerst and Seguin spoke with the officers."

They came back to us in the car and there was dead silence," Haddad-Drummond recalls. "They said, 'They're escorting us downtown.' I knew at this point this was something terribly horrible."

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John Drummond headed to the Lakeshore General Hospital - the closest place to start looking for his daughter. But the receptionist insisted Kelly-Anne wasn't there and after a bit of digging, informed Drummond she had been transferred to the Montreal General Hospital."

I almost died on the spot because there are two trauma units in Montreal and one is at the General," he recalls.

Heading east on Highway 20, his mind racing, he got caught in a construction maze, and ended up lost. But when he finally reached the General, the first thing he asked the doctor was, "Is my daughter alive?"

"Yes," came the answer. "But she's been attacked and has a knife in her head. We had to shave her head and she's breathing on an apparatus in emergency."

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A year earlier, Kelly-Anne , a fresh communications graduate of Concordia University and, always a sports buff, was working as a lifeguard in an apartment building on Gouin Blvd. in Pierrefonds when she struck up a conversation with one of the tenants.

She invited her mom to meet Martin Morin-Cousineau and the three had coffee and Key lime pie at Rockaberry's on Sources Blvd."

He seemed cute, they seemed cute together," Haddad-Drummond recalls."

He was very nice."

But with time, Kelly-Anne's parents started feeling uneasy about their daughter's new beau: He'd sleep in till late in the afternoon and he didn't seem to have steady work, despite claims of having a business degree from McGill University.

He had no interest in her friends or her sports, preferring TV and beer instead.

But most worrisome was when Kelly-Anne asked to borrow her father's car to go to the police station and ask about Morin-Cousineau's past. Her dad offered to accompany her, but, as always, she said she could handle it on her own.

All the police told her, according to John Drummond, was that Morin-Cousineau had parking violations, although his record shows there was a restraining order against him for having made death threats in 2002 against another woman.

A few months later, during the Grey Cup game, Morin-Cousineau called Drummond's house "at least 25 times between 8 and 10 p.m., looking for Kelly-Anne," Drummond recalls.

But when her parents raised their concerns with her, Kelly-Anne brushed them off."She said, 'Don't worry, Mom'," Haddad-Drummond recalls. "She'd say, 'He's travelled to Europe, he's done this, he's done that,' he's so friggin' perfect."

hy would you think any different?"

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A year later, the couple decided to move in together and signed a lease for a place on Pierrefonds Blvd.

Haddad-Drummond remembers her daughter being excited about fixing up her very first apartment. The two went shopping at the Bay for a set of Lagostina pots and pans. Both sets of parents pitched in, helping with the painting.

But the nagging doubts continued in her parents' minds. One night, Kelly-Anne asked her dad if she could spend the night at his place.

The next morning, he decided to confront his daughter.

"OK, what's going on with you and Marty?" Drummond asked her.

He recalls her saying that everything was fine, it was just that she wasn't used to their bed or the noise from the street. Drummond didn't believe her, since the bed had been one she'd slept on at her mom's place.

When pushed, Kelly-Anne blew up at her dad, saying she didn't want to talk about it.

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Five weeks after moving in with Marty, Kelly-Anne couldn't find any of her photos on her computer and called her mom's partner to come over and help her.

He and Haddad-Drummond arrived at the apartment, only to find it in the chaotic mess it was the day they'd moved in. Seguin inspected the computer and concluded the files had been deliberately deleted by someone and were irretrievable."

Marty was still in bed and it was about 5 o'clock, close to suppertime," Haddad-Drummond remembers."

We had the sensation we were overstaying our welcome and that Kelly-Anne wanted us to leave."

Then Morin-Cousineau walked past them, without saying hello, into the bathroom and closed the door behind him."

We left and I felt very low," Haddad-Drummond recalls. "There was something desperately wrong and I couldn't pin it down.

"I couldn't reach her."

It got to the point where Kelly-Anne never invited her parents over, and when they dropped by unannounced, she'd open the door just a crack."

This is what breaks my heart," Haddad-Drummond says. "Here she is with this brand new apartment, a new set of pots and pans, all new appliances, ceiling fans and lights, and she looked so happy and excited," she said. "I know she would've loved to have had us over - she was a real Martha Stewart."

But we were never invited."

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On Sept. 15, 2004, Kelly-Anne flew to Italy alone for a life-guarding competition. There, she confided in teammate Philippe Major that things weren't going that well with Morin-Cousineau, and that he'd threatened to kill her if she took the trip. Morin-Cousineau had booked her ticket for her during his most recent job as a travel agent, but threatened to cancel it several times.

In one of the MSN Messenger exchanges during the trip, Morin-Cousineau told his girlfriend he liked the fact when he got home from work, she wasn't in the apartment waiting to fight with him.

"I said she could stay there as far as I'm concerned," Morin-Cousineau admitted during his trial.

After 12 days of sightseeing and competing, Kelly-Anne's father picked her up at the airport in Dorval, but as the two entered her apartment, Morin-Cousineau didn't even get off the couch to greet her.

Drummond kissed and hugged his daughter goodbye and at the same time, whispered in her ear: "Do you want to go?"

When she said no, Drummond said: "If you feel you have to go, call me and I'll be here as soon as I can."

Drummond recalls his daughter's answer, which haunts him to this day. "No, Dad, I'll be fine."

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Five days later, Kelly-Anne had dinner at her dad's place, regaling him with stories about her trip and presenting him with a bottle of Italian wine and a green tie with blue flecks that she had brought home with her.

She called Haddad-Drummond from her father's place and told her she'd bought her underwear and portraits she'd brought from Italy for her coming 50th birthday on Oct. 17.'

"How's Marty?" Haddad-Drummond remembers asking her daughter.

"You know, Mom," she recalls Kelly-Anne saying. "I have to be more respectful of him."

Haddad-Drummond remembers wanting to say, "Like hell. You were brought up to respect people, you don't need to learn that at 24." But she bit her tongue.

"That's the last time I spoke to her."

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The following day, Oct. 3, the couple's landlord came to the door in the afternoon to say the couple still owed $30 on that month's rent, then left. Drummond asked Morin-Cousineau why he hadn't paid it. Her nagging, he told court, started to get on his nerves, and he yelled from the couch in the living room, where he sat watching television and eating, "F---! Enough!"

On the recorded 911 call made at 8:08 p.m., Morin-Cousineau's panicked voice is heard saying: "We got in a little bit of a fight. I went ... I got mad ... I got mad. I went to throw ... she got scared, she sort of slipped, fell into the stove."

Minutes later, paramedics found her lying face-up on the kitchen floor in a massive pool of blood. There was a 9.5-centimetre steak knife blade lodged inside her neck, the snapped-off handle on the counter.

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Outside Kelly-Anne's room at the hospital, Haddad-Drummond remembered, she held the shoulders of a young female police officer - who didn't look any older than Kelly-Anne - shaking her and saying: "Listen to your mother."

The other officer guarding the room had tears in her eyes, and when Haddad-Drummond asked why, she replied: "My sister is going through the same thing" as Kelly-Anne.

In fact, Haddad-Drummond's two daughters, Kim and Kelly-Anne, had always listened to her, and rarely gave their parents a hint of trouble. She'd sew them matching outfits in different colours, the two attended Brownies and Guides, were altar girls at the local Anglican church and were heavily into sports, especially swimming and rugby. In 2003, Kelly-Anne won the Canadian Surf Ski Championship.

How, she couldn't help wonder, had it come to this? That her baby was on a stretcher, her life taken from her by someone she apparently worshipped?

What the family learned from doctors was next to impossible to accept. The knife blade had severed Kelly-Anne's spinal cord, turning her immediately into a quadrapalegic and making it impossible for her to breath without a machine."

I remember lying beside her the night of the 4th," Haddad-Drummond said, sitting out the excruciatingly long wait for a verdict."

Her body felt so warm and comfortable and normal and her colour was good but, of course, she was hooked up to all kinds of machines."

As the hours passed, the machines showed Kelly-Anne's heart rate increasing.

"I didn't want my poor baby to explode, to have a heart attack."

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At 3:30 in the afternoon on Oct. 5, Kelly-Anne's parents decided to remove the machines. John couldn't bring himself to be in the room.

Of course, the Drummond family is tormented by what ifs and if onlys. They scan her coveted diary of her trip to Italy for hidden clues, examine her face in the photos, to no avail.

"I don't know what we could have done to avoid this," Haddad-Drummond said, letting out a deep sigh.

"There are things I did see, but I had never experienced conjugal violence myself."

If I knew then what I know now, I think Kelly-Anne would be alive. But what could I do? I couldn't kidnap her."

smontgomery@thegazette.canwest.com

Press Clippings--Part XXXVI

Elite athlete's boyfriend found guilty: Stabbed Kelly-Anne Drummond; 'Get help when you see the yellow light'

By Sue Montgomery

The Gazette, April 11, 2006

For the past three weeks in the Montreal courthouse, a silent but deeply emotional feud between two families, once joined by their children's romance, was being fought to the finish. One side desperately wanted the jury to reach a guilty verdict; the other was praying for an acquittal.

Yesterday, after four nail-biting days of deliberation, the seven-man, five-woman jury found Martin Morin-Cousineau guilty of stabbing Kelly-Anne Drummond to death.

On one side of the room, Micheline Morin-Cousineau clutched a wad of tissues, her eyes filling with tears, her body trembling. There was no one to console her, not even her husband, Jean Cousineau, who, as he has throughout the trial, showed no emotion. Their 32-year-old son sat, shackled, within view in the prisoner's box, shaking his head and mumbling to himself. His defence was that the death was an accident.

Directly across the aisle from the Morin-Cousineaus, John Drummond crossed himself, and Doreen Haddad-Drummond wiped tears from her eyes. With them sat their new partners; their marriage ended seven years ago. Their surviving daughter, Kim, born 11 months to the day after her big sister, also sat with them.

Behind the family, row after row of supporters, from battered women groups to long-lost relatives, heaved sighs of relief.

Haddad-Drummond, obviously relieved that the waiting was over, said she was happy no other women will be hurt by Morin-Cousineau, who has a history of violence against women.

"It's a victory because we can't afford to lose any more young women in Quebec," she said.

The Morin-Cousineaus politely declined an interview, saying the entire ordeal has been terribly difficult for them.

"Torn apart, all of us," Micheline Morin-Cousineau said while awaiting a verdict, shaking her head, her eyes filling with tears.

The Pierrefonds couple had adopted Martin at age 3, along with his brother, Michel, just 13 months between them. According to the Drummonds, the Morin-Cousineaus were crazy about their son's girlfriend, Kelly-Anne. She worked with children, was outgoing and an elite athlete and, like Micheline, had a keen interest in crafts.

The Drummonds, on the other hand, had reservations about their daughter's choice of boyfriend, but were willing to give him the benefit of the doubt, even when the two moved in together in August 2004. It's a decision they've second-guessed ever since.

On Oct. 3, 2004, an angry Morin-Cousineau stuck a steak knife in the back of his girlfriend's neck, severing her brain stem. She died two days later when life support was removed.By all accounts, Kelly-Anne was articulate and intelligent and was surrounded by supportive friends and family. She had insisted she could work things out with her new beau on her own.

"Kelly-Anne Drummond was not a weak woman," crown prosecutor Helene Di Salvo said. She said she hoped the case would encourage other women in abusive relationships to seek help."

There are women who are threatened, beaten and harassed and think they can deal with it themselves," she said. "But get help when you see the yellow light. Don't wait for the red light."

Sentencing arguments are scheduled for Thursday. The Drummonds will give victim-impact statements.